“How are you feeling? ” is one of the most powerful phrases there are.

We live in a world with a constant flow of inputs and infinite distractions, in a civilization where everything is on-demand. Rare are the mainstream activities and entertainment opportunities which propose to see people rather than digest content. With apps like Tinder, we can even find an unlimited pool of fellow humans to use and discard.

When we socialize the old school way, sharing a meal with family, having a drink with friends, what was on the Tiktok, Netflix, Facebook, and co. are often part of the conversation. What tends never to be mentioned is us.

When was the last time you took a real interest in someone’s realm and story? Most of us almost solely engage in superficial and transactional interactions. We tend to prioritise productivity, work, entertainment over depth and connection; unless of course we are motivated by the deeply engrained mechanism of reproduction and preservation.

The engineering of our on-demand world is impacting the way we interact. As our attention span has been proving to shrink in our environment of infinite competing distractions, our emotional quotient – already a scarce resource – might be suffering too.

However, we humans remain complex social animals. Even if we try to hide our feelings in colourful shows and to drown our thoughts in a sea of animated images, the most essential elements of our lives remain our relationships with ourselves and other living beings.

Seeing people and seeing ourselves is difficult in this phantom Eden. However, the best stories are the ones that people and our physical environment share with us. They are a precious gift allowing for deepening our relationships, enriching our world, and at times they are an opportunity to help, to show support and acceptance, to encourage, to change a life.

Next time you find yourself next to someone, why don’t you pause, and ask, “how are you feeling?”.

Please excuse typos, repeats, or any non-sense. My riffs are unedited outpouring of words written in one sitting to explore thoughts that were volunteering to be developed.

I am a 30 something learning to explore my thoughts daily by typing them on a keyboard. I write about what I observe, learn and ponder. You can expect to read about change and love, as we all need a better self and world to live in as much as we need to take the time to appreciate the gift and journey of life.

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